Wanting Is not selfish and the sooner you come to grips with us the sooner you will start to get more of what you desire. When you give things to people or do things for people and it makes you feel good in a sense that’s being selfish because you’re doing it to make yourself feel good and that’s a good thing. Just like everything else in life there is a balance, there is a good selfishness in the bad selfishness wanting specific outcomes and things in your life is not selfish that is life in itself. It’s OK to feel good and be happy.