Introduction
What do I want? And what do I need to do to get it?
Those two questions are where every decision begins, big or small. You have to know what you want and what it may take to get there.
At thirteen, I became curious about life and started searching for answers everywhere — in church, books, seminars, mentors, spiritual teachings, psychology, and by observing people who had what I thought I wanted.
After a while, a pattern started to emerge.
Different words. Similar meaning. Similar results.
“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”
— Mark 11:24, KJV
“Where you place your attention is where you place your energy.”
— Joe Dispenza
“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
— Napoleon Hill
Think of these ideas as gold nuggets scattered across different fields. Collect enough of them, and a pattern becomes clear.
That pattern starts in one place: your thoughts.
Your thoughts influence your feelings. Your feelings influence your beliefs. Your beliefs influence your actions. And your actions influence the outcomes you receive.
I have achieved and manifested many things in my life using the tools and techniques I learned along the way — relationships, freedom, financial breathing room, and clarity.
And then I lost my way.
Not all at once. Gradually.
The kind of drift you don’t notice until you finally look up and no longer recognize where you are.
In a three-year period, I lost both of my parents, shut my business down, got caught in a toxic relationship, and felt abandoned by some family members during the chaos. My belief system took a hit.
I kept pushing forward. I kept trying to stay positive. But I still felt stuck — like there was a dome over me, keeping me from moving forward.
So I went searching again.
Books. Videos. Conversations. Teachers.
Different sources kept pointing me back to the same basic pattern. Eventually, I realized I needed one place to hold it all.
Not for anyone else at first.
For me.
I kept fighting the calling to share this journey, but life kept bringing me back to it.
Not starting over.
Starting from experience.
This book is that place. And now it’s yours too.
In the pages ahead, I’ll walk you through four simple steps pulled from religion, philosophy, science, and personal development:
Ask. Believe. Do. Receive.
These steps are simple, but that does not mean they are easy.
Before we get into the process itself, we start with the one thing that makes all four steps work better: learning to observe and manage your thoughts. That is what helps you recognize where you are strong, where you are stuck, and what needs your attention next.
This book is designed to be used, not just read.
Many of the ideas may sound familiar. You may have heard them in other books, podcasts, videos, conversations, or from your own life experience. The difference is not simply knowing these ideas. The difference is applying them consistently.
As you read, resist the urge to rush through the book. Read a chapter, think about how it applies to your life, and spend a few days practicing the challenge at the end of that chapter before moving on.
Use this book as a guide. If you recognize an area where you feel stuck, you will be able to return to that section, review the concept, and use the exercise to help break the pattern and move forward.
The goal is not to finish the book quickly.
The goal is to use it.
Take your time. Apply what you learn. Then move on to the next chapter.
Introduction
What do I want? And what do I need to do to get it?
Those two questions are where everything starts — for any decision, big or small. You have to know what you want and what it’s going to take to get there.
At thirteen I became very curious about life and started searching for answers and direction everywhere — in church, books, seminars, mentors, spiritual teachings, psychology, observing others who had what I thought I wanted.
After a while a pattern started to emerge. Different words, same meaning — pointing toward similar results.
“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”
— Mark 11:24 (KJV)
“Where you place your attention is where you place your energy.”
— Joe Dispenza
“You have to build calluses on your brain just like how you build calluses on your hands.”
— David Goggins
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
— Napoleon Hill
Think of them as gold nuggets scattered across different fields. Collect enough, and the pattern becomes clear. That pattern starts in one place: your thoughts. They shape your feelings, your beliefs, and your actions.
I’ve achieved and manifested many things in my life using the tools and techniques that I learned. Relationships, freedom, financial breathing room, clarity. And then I lost my way. Not all at once. Gradually. The kind of drift you don’t notice until you look up and don’t recognize where you are.
In a three year period I lost both of my parents, shut my business down, while caught in a toxic relationship, abandoned by some family members during the chaos. My belief system took a hit. I kept pushing forward, kept a positive outlook — but still felt stuck. Like a dome was over me, keeping me from moving forward.
So I went searching again. Books, videos, conversations, teachers. Different words, same pattern. I wrote this book because I eventually realized I needed one place to hold it all. Not for anyone else. For me first.
I kept fighting the calling to share this journey. Life kept bringing me back to it.
Not starting over. Starting from experience.
This is that place. And now it’s yours too.
In the pages ahead I’ll walk you through four steps pulled from religion, philosophy, science, and personal development — different words pointing toward the same truth, simplified. But first we start with the one thing that makes all four steps work better: learning to observe yourself. — because that’s what helps you recognize where you’re strong, where you’re stuck, and how to keep moving forward.