Health — A Major Outcome
I’ll be honest — I’ve been fortunate with my health. No major illnesses. No life threatening diagnoses. So for this example I’m going to share what others have documented and what science continues to confirm.
In this situation the ask is simple. You want to be healthy. You want to heal. Most people facing a major health challenge know exactly what they want — they just need to believe it’s possible and take the right steps to get there. This is one of those situations where Step 1 requires the least effort and Steps 2, 3, and 4 require everything you’ve got.
Because when it comes to major health outcomes, the research is clear — the mind plays a far more powerful role than most people realize..
You may have heard of Dr. Joe Dispenza. His story starts with a triathlon where he was struck by a truck and shattered six vertebrae in his spine. Doctors told him surgery was his only option — and even then, he might never walk again. He refused the surgery. Instead he spent hours every day in meditation, visualizing his spine healing, rebuilding it vertebra by vertebra in his mind. Within nine weeks he was walking. Within twelve weeks he was back to training.
That’s not a miracle story — or maybe it is. But it’s also documented. And it’s not the only one.
In The Secret, a woman shares her experience of being diagnosed with cancer and choosing to focus entirely on healing. She avoided stress. She stopped watching the news. She only watched comedies. She surrounded herself with joy and laughter and kept her mind fixed on one outcome — being healthy. She recovered.
These aren’t isolated cases. Dr. Dispenza has spent years conducting research at his seminars — hooking participants up to equipment that measures brain activity and biological markers — and documenting measurable physical changes that happen when people shift their thoughts and beliefs.
And then there’s the placebo effect.
Most people have heard of it. But here’s something worth knowing — the placebo effect is literally built into the FDA’s drug approval process. In clinical trials a group of people receive the actual medication while another group receives a sugar pill. Neither group knows which one they have. For a drug to be approved it has to outperform the placebo by a certain percentage.
Here’s the remarkable part — sometimes the sugar pill outperforms the actual medicine.
The body healed itself. Not because of what was in the pill. Because of what the person believed.
That is the power of the mind over the body. Documented. Measurable. Real.
Ask — What do I want? To be healthy. To be healed. To feel strong and whole. Be specific about the outcome you want — not the diagnosis, not the fear, not the worst case scenario. The outcome you want.
Believe — This is where the real work happens. See yourself healthy. Feel what it’s like to move freely, to have energy, to wake up feeling good. Surround yourself with stories of people who have healed. Watch things that make you laugh. Protect your mind from content that feeds fear. What you focus on during this time matters more than you might think.
Do — Follow your medical guidance. Work with your doctors. Take the steps that are in front of you. And simultaneously do the internal work. Meditate. Visualize. Journal. Pray. Whatever connects you to the belief that healing is possible — do that too. The body and the mind work together. Give both what they need.
Receive — This is perhaps the most important step at this level. Once you begin to heal — maintain the outlook of someone who is healthy. Don’t keep revisiting the diagnosis. Don’t keep telling the story of how sick you were. Become the healthy person. See yourself that way. Speak about yourself that way. The receive step at this level isn’t just about getting better — it’s about staying better by holding onto the identity of someone who is well.
Because your body is always listening to what your mind believes.
Relationships — A Major Outcome
Not every major relationship decision is about finding someone. Sometimes it’s about deciding what kind of relationship you can have with someone — and what you’re willing to do to maintain it.
This applies to partners, family members, business partners, close friends. Anyone whose presence in your life carries real weight.
And here’s something worth settling early — you’re allowed to have expectations. The key is knowing where to place people in your life based on what the relationship actually is — not what you wish it was.
There are people you can work with but don’t want to spend personal time with. People you enjoy socially but would never go into business with. People you love deeply but can only handle in certain doses. None of that makes you cold. It makes you intentional.
I had a family member who was one of the most generous people I’ve ever known — but also one of the most difficult. Blunt. Easily offended. Quick to shut down. The relationship required management. Real intentional management.
I had to ask myself — what do I actually want here? Not what I wished the relationship could be. What could it realistically be? And once I got honest about that, I stopped being frustrated by what it wasn’t and started working with what it was.
That’s the process applied to one of the hardest situations there is.
Ask — What do I want from this relationship? Be honest. Not what you wish it was — what can it actually be? What are you willing to invest? What are your limits? Getting clear on this isn’t giving up. It’s giving yourself direction.
And ask the hard question too — is this relationship adding to my life or consistently draining it? You don’t have to have a perfect answer. But you need to be honest enough to ask.
Believe — Believe that a workable relationship is possible — even if it’s not perfect. Believe that you can show up as your best self even when the other person isn’t showing up as theirs. And believe that setting limits isn’t a failure. It’s wisdom.
Look for what’s good in the person. Focus on what you appreciate. What you focus on grows — even in difficult relationships.
Do — Show up intentionally. If you know certain topics create conflict — navigate around them when possible. If you know certain situations bring out the worst in everyone — limit those situations. Prepare yourself before difficult interactions. Get in a good headspace. Have an exit plan if you need one.
And communicate. Not to win. Not to prove a point. To be understood — and to understand. Listen more than you speak. Most relationship conflicts aren’t really about the thing they’re about. They’re about feeling heard. Give people that and watch how much changes.
Know your limits. Enforce them calmly. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept and what you don’t.
Receive — Peace. Not perfection. A relationship you can live with — on terms that work for both people.
You don’t have to choose between cutting someone off completely and accepting everything. There’s a middle ground. A relationship defined by what it can be rather than what it isn’t.
Some people belong in every part of your life. Some belong in specific parts. And some — despite your best efforts — may not belong in it at all. Only you can decide that.
But whatever you decide — decide it intentionally. With clarity about what you want. With belief that it’s possible. With action that reflects your values. And with the grace to receive whatever the relationship can genuinely offer.
Because the quality of your life is largely determined by the quality of your relationships. Choose them — and tend to them — on purpose.
Money — A Major Outcome
Major financial outcomes require more than wanting more money. They require a willingness to think differently, act differently, and become someone who can hold a different level of financial reality.
This isn’t just about business. It’s about designing a life on your own terms.
Ask — Get honest about what you actually want. Not just a number — a life. What does financial freedom look like for you? Working from anywhere? Building something you own? Creating income that doesn’t require your physical presence? Starting there gives your mind a real direction.
You may not know exactly what the vehicle looks like yet. That’s okay. Keep following what calls to you. Try things. One thing leads to another. Sometimes you have to experience what you don’t want to get clear on what you do.
Believe — Overcome the money blocks that are holding you back. Look for evidence that what you want is possible. Find people who started where you are and built something real. Study them. Use their results as proof that yours are possible too.
And stay open to how it arrives. The path rarely looks exactly like you imagined. What matters is keeping the vision clear and your belief stronger than your doubt.
Do — Most people build their future in the margins. Early mornings. Evenings. Weekends. You keep what pays the bills while you build what will eventually replace it. Use the skills you already have as the starting point. Take the next right step — even when you can’t see the whole staircase.
Stay prepared. Because when opportunity shows up the question is whether you’ll be ready for it.
Receive — When it starts working — own it. Don’t downplay it. Don’t second guess it. You asked for it. You believed it. You did the work. Now receive it fully and keep building from there.
Because every level of financial freedom you reach is just the beginning of the next one.
Your future self is already grateful you started.
Chapter 5 Closing
The process doesn’t change. Only the stakes do. And the higher the stakes — the more important it is to stay anchored in what you want, believe it’s possible, and keep moving forward.
Simple process. Intentional life. A life you’re co-creating on purpose, one situation at a time.
Your future self is already living the life you’re building today.